Santham, Sringaram, Hasyam, Raudram, Karunyam , Bibhastam, Bayanakam,
Viram, Adbhutam.
I would be referring to stuff from my Guru Sri Changanti
Koteswara Rao speeches and to the Hindu books.
I am not exactly sure why and where it is misunderstood the
importance of woman. And this misunderstanding made people to think that women are low compared
with a male. A man can never be 100 percent complete without a female next to
him.
Kardama Prajapathi (A ruler in the SatyaYuga)has done more 10000 years of severe penance to get a good wife.
Man by birth and default has three debts one paternal debt(Pithru
Runam), two debts to gods(Daiva Runam) and third one debt to the sages (Muni
Runam).
PitruRunam : You are debted to your father and fore fathers for giving you birth and looking after you. The only way you can pay this debt is by extending your race and performing pithru ceremony yearly after they are passed on. Extension of your race can only happen with your wife, Without a female there is no chance to extend your race. Second one, it does not matter to the forefather’s atma how well you performed the ceremony yearly they will only accept the tarpan offered by you unless the daughter-in-law lights a diya. If due to menstrual cycle or some other reason is not able to do this, the ceremony itself is postponed for three days and it is to be conducted after she is good to enter home again. So if you notice here who is important it is never a male, it the female who gets the respect. A female can always glorify two families both her parents and in-laws but a male can only glorify his parents’ family.
DevaRunam: This debt
is to the devas (Gods) for giving you everything you are on today. To peform an
yagna or a pooja the 100 percent return for the pooja is given only when you
are accompanied by your wife. Reference :
Lord Sri Rama made a golden figure of Seetha when Seetha was away and he
was performing Aswamedha Yaga. When the Lord Sri Rama himself could not manage
without Seetha how you do expect to get something without your wife next to
you. As per the Vedas ,wife gets 50% of the benefit of any pooja or a
good deed husband does irrespective of whether the wife participated or not but
vice versa is not granted . Most importantly to note she only gets
the share in results of good deeds but never for the bad deeds, although the
male does for her only. But why a wife is granted such a great position because
she cooks, looks after you needs and does everything for you.
Muni Runam for the tapas they did and the puranas , slokas
and everything the Munis have given the human race. This debt too would be
cleared only when you are accompanied by a wife.
If you read Hindu books , chaste woman (pativrata) were able
to command the world just by serving their husband and nothing else.
Reference . Anasuya
wife of Atri could convert Lord Brahma , Vishnu and Siva into day babies when
they have come in the guise of Brahmins to test the chaste of Anasuya. It is
only when the wifes of trine Goddess Saraswathi, Lakshmi and Parvathi went and
pleaded Anasuya they got back their
normal form.
Sati Savithri managed to stop Yama from her husband life being taken away. Sumathi controlled the Sun from rising itself. All of them were able to do only by serving their husbands.
